"Soul Mates are people who are connected to you for a short amount of time who teach you a life lesson to prepare you for the next step in your life. “
Of course this statement has its positive merits, but every time I hear this perspective I can’t help but think of how disposable it makes people sound. I think of people rationalizing their selfishness with ‘philosophical’ fodder, and eloquent euphemisms. Shucking away the human shell to get at the meaty lesson on the inside, sitting on a pile of rejected/dejected carcasses, picking their teeth before belching out a monologue about self-love being the best love. Worse still is romanticizing this role: as a casanova, or a femme fatale, well versed in the scientific details of attraction.
In the quest for lessons, many fail to consider their counterparts as humans, who exist outside the context of the lesson-harvester. Engage carefully, or not at all. The admirable philosophers and spiritual leaders that are so lovingly quoted did not intend for the process of finding one’s self to involve leaving a trail of emotional carnage behind. As mature as “finding one’s self” sounds - as fulfilling as it feels rolling off the tongue - going about it in such a manner is heavy-handed & reeks of immaturity. It is tempting to wonder what those spiritual leaders would say in regards to karma. “Engage carefully, or not at all.” Consider your casualties. Life is not a cosmic shooting range to practice in. Love is not a kamikaze mission where you snatch a pedestrian into your plane. Engage carefully.Or. Not. At. All.